Talking about dementia is never easy, and these conversations become even more challenging to have with children. However, these discussions are crucial for fostering understanding, empathy, and emotional resilience in young minds. Dementia, particularly when it affects a family member like grandma or grandpa, introduces a host of changes that can be confusing and scary for children.
At Rockbridge Oaks, we understand that dementia can be a challenging topic for adults to discuss with the youngest members of the family. This is why we’re sharing tips on how to talk to children about dementia in a way they can understand and better cope with.
Demystifying Dementia in 5 Steps
Simplify a Complex Condition
Children are naturally curious and observant. They will likely notice changes in a family member living with dementia before adults decide to address the topic. Therefore, it’s essential to explain dementia in simple, age-appropriate terms. You might say, “Grandma’s brain is sick, and that makes it hard for her to remember things sometimes.” This explanation is straightforward and uses terms children will be able to understand.
Remove Fear from the Unknown
Fear often stems from misunderstanding or lack of information. Providing children with clear, factual explanations about dementia helps mitigate their fears. Reassure them that even though the person with dementia may forget things or act differently, they still love them very much. This reassurance is vital for maintaining the child’s sense of security and connection. Once you’ve explained to your kids in simple terms what dementia is, you can frame dementia as a medical condition rather than something frightening or peculiar.
Be Honest with Them
Honesty is the foundation of trust. When discussing dementia, be straightforward and avoid overwhelming children with too many details. For example, explain that dementia is a condition that affects memory and behavior instead of sugar-coating or dismissing their questions. Provide truthful, simple answers that validate their observations and concerns.
Encourage Them to Ask Questions
Empower children to express any confusion they might have, reinforcing that no question is too small or silly. You might say, “It’s great that you’re asking questions! What are you curious about?” By addressing their concerns, you provide them with clarity and a sense of control in a situation that can feel overwhelming. If you don’t know the answer to a question, it’s okay to be honest about it and suggest finding the answer together. This open dialogue helps children feel valued and understood.
Allow Them to Feel Their Own Emotions
Children should be encouraged to express their feelings about the changes they observe. Create a space where they feel safe to talk about their fears, sadness, or confusion. Acknowledge their emotions and provide comfort, reminding them that it’s okay to feel upset or worried. This validation helps children process their emotions in a healthy manner.
Keep Them Connected with the Family Member with Dementia
Maintaining strong connections with the person living with dementia is crucial. Encourage children to continue spending time with grandpa or grandma, even if interactions change over time. Simple hobbies like looking through photo albums, listening to music, or enjoying a favorite snack together can create meaningful moments. Reassure children that their presence brings joy, even if communication becomes challenging.
How Memory Care Can Help
At Rockbridge Oaks, we offer tailored care plans that address the unique needs of individuals with dementia, providing a safe and nurturing setting. We also support families by offering resources, counseling, and programs designed to maintain family bonds. Our Chattanooga memory care community is renowned for its holistic approach to dementia care, helping residents thrive in a secure neighborhood. We help individuals live a dignified life with as much independence as possible.
Our specialized programs are designed to stimulate the bodies and minds of those living with Alzheimer’s disease or other forms of dementia. We believe that by involving family members in the journey of those facing dementia, we ensure they remain an integral part of the care process. This involvement ultimately helps children understand that their family member is receiving the best possible care while maintaining a sense of normalcy in their interactions.
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Navigating conversations about dementia with children requires honesty, empathy, and ongoing support. Remember, open dialogue about dementia not only helps children cope with their emotions but also cultivates a nurturing setting where empathy and understanding can flourish.For more personalized guidance on how to talk to children about dementia, consider contacting a member of the Rockbridge Oaks team or scheduling a visit to our Chattanooga memory care community.